So true!

"The moral code of our society is so demanding that no one can think, feel and act in a completely moral way. For example, we are not supposed to hate anyone, yet almost everyone hates somebody at some time or other, whether he admits it to himself or not. Some people are so highly socialized that the attempt to think, feel and act morally imposes a severe burden on them. In order to avoid feelings of guilty, they continually have to deceive themselves about their own motives and find moral explanations for feelings and actions that in reality have a nonmoral origin. we use the term "oversocialized" to describe such people. Oversocialization can lead to low self-esteem, a sense of powerlessness, defeatism, guilt, etc.. One of the most important means by which our society socializes children is by making them feel ashamed of behavior or speech that is contrary to society's expectations" Theodore Kaczynsk